Neufeld, Peter

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Private family service will be held at 11:00AM on Monday, March 18, 2019 at Wiebe Funeral Chapel, Morden. There will be no public viewing. Interment prior to the service at Gnadenthal Cemetery. In lieu of flowers, donations may be made in Peter's memory to the Boundary Trails Health Centre Foundation.

Peter Neufeld
1929 - 2019

Peter Neufeld was born on October 24th, 1929 to Peter and Katharina Wiebe Neufeld, near Schoenwiese, Manitoba, and he passed into eternity on March 15, 2019 at the age of 89 years, at the Boundary Trails Health Center.

Rather than focus on these two dates we will look at the days in between, because it is here that he lived and loved. In preparing this portion of this Memorial, I recognized quickly that for a man of such few words, this could easily become a book.

Dad attended school as a child in Hochfeld, Blummenfeld and Gnadenthal.

He was baptized in the Sommerfeld Mennonite Church as a young man.

He began his working years as a mail courier at the age of 17, and from there worked several seasonal farm jobs, he worked as a clerk at a grocery store, and he did some construction work. In the 50’s, Dad began working for what later became known as Southern Manitoba Potato Company, or Southern for short.  He was there for many years. He closed out his farming career with Cloverdale Farms.

He always enjoyed the farming aspect of his life, and they spent many summer days going for drives to look at the crops even after retirement.

Peter and Doreen who from here on in will be referred to as mom and dad, were married on December 23, 1954.

They chose to make Gnadenthal home until after their retirement when their kids finally convinced them to move off the farm about 14 years ago.

Dad always told people the only reason he moved was to get his kids of his back, and it had nothing to do with the fact that the house was falling down around his head. As a matter of fact, he mentioned to me just a short time ago, that there really had been no need to move, because the house that was falling down, was still standing.  Oh well, dad!!

Dad and Mom had 7 children, 6 daughters and 1 son. Each one of them was his favorite, regardless of where he started his line.

Dad was a man of very few words as I said earlier, however, the lesson that those few words taught were powerful. He gave us wisdom, and it works when we use it.

He taught us to work, and work hard, because “We don’t ever ride in on someone else’s nickel”.  

He taught us the importance of promptly paying our bills.

He taught us “every pancake has two sides, and you should always look at both sides before you make a decision.

He taught us, that in life we would have many opportunities to fight, but to always fight fair. He said, I don’t ever want to hear that any of my kids threw the first punch. But if we ever found ourselves in a fight then we had better fight to win. 

He taught us that every job that was worth doing in the first place, was worth doing well. Consequently, after inspection, the combine and tractor windows were cleaned, again. This time properly.

He taught us to try, try, and try again. Then try once more….

He taught us that asking “Why Me?” was the wrong question. We should be asking “Why not me?” because we were no better than anyone else, and besides asking why me is whining and whining was not tolerated.  

Yes, and he tried to teach us a few things too like:

You wash and vacuum the car on Saturday, even if it has not been driven.

Don’t you ever let me catch you driving with less than ½ a tank of gas.

If you are old enough to drive, you are old enough to change a tire, and check the oil.

And then there was “If you have to ask, how much it costs, chances are you can’t afford it. Don’t ever forget that there is a big difference between making one 400.00 payment, and making monthly 400.00 payments for 5 years. My dad was a no debt man.

And then there was

Any man that thinks of dating my daughters better have a job, and he know how to tie a double Windsor knot in a neck tie. Of course just in case they didn’t – we had to learn.    Yes, we can all tie a double Windsor.

Dad was always faithful to his wife, to his family, his dogs, and to Dodge.

As the story goes, Fords were not allowed on his yard – they could park on the road.

Needless to say, as the family grew, things changed. We had so many Fords sitting on the yard, at family gatherings, I teasingly asked him, what was going on?  He said to me with a chuckle “Yes, and it’s a crying shame… If I could get off the yard, I would go park on the road.”

Yes, he did have a sense of humor.

One day in a particularly trying day, Mom, with 7 of us underfoot said in frustration.

Why don’t you help me and wipe the floor and sweep the table?

He calmly, with a glint in his eye, got up, went to get the broom, and placed it on the corner of the table… enough said, we can all imagine where that went. 

Besides humor Dad also had hobbies:

He loved hog slaughtering weekends.

He loved to hunt.

He loved to fish.

He loved curling in his younger days.

He loved family day trips to the beach at Lynches Point.

He loved the occasional weekend fishing trips, sometimes with only Lyle, and sometimes with the guys.

As the silent man he spoke little of any plans he made, and consequently, it amazes us, how mom could in a matter of 2 hours have 7 kids in the car and ready to go, when all she got was. 

 “Ve fooren no Alberta, “Wann du mat wast, dan com” -   2 hours later we were in the car we were in Alberta for breakfast. Amazingly Auntie Tina was always ready to feed an extra 9 people breakfast, and, she didn’t even have the 2 hours’ notice.  All she got was the doorbell.

Dad was never a follower of the masses. He lived his life out of conviction, to what he believed.

He believed that “Next to the clergy, the military, the navy, and law enforcement deserve, and are entitled to the absolute highest respect.”

He believed that when the poles are open, you vote.

He believed in “You never give up on family and friends” and

He believed that “fanfare of any sort was all just unnecessary hullabaloo.”

Without betraying the privacy that our dad preferred, I trust that I have given you just a peek into the man we all loved.

I do know, he would have been overwhelmed with your show of support, and I know he appreciated every one of you. 

People, are what mattered most to him.

He loved his family dearly, and the loss of Larry and Brenda took a major toll on both mom and dad. They never have fully recovered from that blow, and we noticed a serious decline in their health after this tragic event.

He loved his friends, and spoke often of:

“Our years in Gnadenthal”

“Our American friends”

“Our friends at the legion”

And you “Paul Peters” were an integral part of his life.

We as a family want to thank each one of you for all that you have been to dad and will continue to be for mom. 

In closing: He is survived by his wife, Doreen, his children and their families, who have affectionately been dubbed the Neufeld clan. He is also survived by one sister.

Peter was predeceased by his parents, his daughter, Brenda, and her husband, Larry, and 2 sisters.

After the service we invite you to join us for lunch – It’s on dad!!!

 
   

 

#1 Don Kuhl 2019-03-16 09:19
Condolences to Doreen and family, many fond memories of Peter as work partners.Peter was a hard worker whom I considered a friend.
#2 ALBERT SIEMENS 2019-03-16 14:31
Condolences to Peter's family. Having Peter in for coffee every morning meant in one way or another , it would tend to the positive side.
#3 Ray & Lydia Hamm 2019-03-16 15:00
Condolences to the family. May God bless and comfort you. Really enjoyed working with Peter in my younger days. Rest In Peace.
#4 Darryl Penny & Val 2019-03-16 20:14
Doreen & family,our sincere condolences for the loss of a dear man.We enjoyed every time we were in his company.He will be missed.Keep those happy memories close to your heart.
Darryl & Val
#5 Gail Braun 2019-03-17 06:39
My deepest sympathy to you and your family ,Mrs. Neufeld ! Many fond memories of you and your daughters. From an old friend , Gail
#6 Gail Braun 2019-03-17 06:55
Deepest sympathy to you and your family ! Many fond memories of you ,Mrs. Neufeld . . ,and your daughters . From an old friend Gail
#7 Peter neufeld 2019-03-17 13:31
Auntie Doreen and family.
Many fond memories remembered as neighbors in Gnadenthal. Our most sincere condolences
Reg and Fran. Brad and Karen
#8 Doris Lumgair/ Wayne Pattle 2019-03-17 17:41
Doreen& family our deepest Sympathy in the loss of a dear husband father & grandpa he will be dearly missed by all & also anyone that knew him .
#9 Irene Klassen 2019-03-17 21:53
Doreen and family, how I remember spending so many hours at your house. Great memories. My condolences to you all during this difficult time at the loss or your husband and father and grandfather. Remembering you fondly.
#10 Larry & Margo Friesen 2019-03-17 22:51
Our sympathies to the Neufeld family for the loss of your father!
#11 Bonnie Gerbrandt 2019-03-18 07:08
Doreen and family .. The tribute to your dad is an amazing story of a dedicated man who lived and loved his life so beautifully . I have fond memories of times spent with your family during our early 4-H years . I always enjoyed your big , happy family . The loss of Pete will surely be difficult for you and I pray that comfort and peace will surround you during this time . Sincerely , Bonnie Gerbrandt ( Leiding )

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